More Than A Resolution
Jan 04, 2014 01:58AM
Now is the time of year when many will create and attempt to live up to resolutions. Each one of us has the chance to determine the course of his or her life. Unless this resolution is made with a firm and fierce commitment, the resolution-maker is destined to remain the same as before, never changing.
Most people make resolutions because they hold an ideal vision of the self that is yet to be attained. These resolutions can make us accountable to ourselves and help us to set a bar for us to leap over. Often a New Year’s resolution involves creating a new intention. Threaded from the inspiration of a beginning, we are striving to meet and reach a new visceral end.
Typically for a New Year’s resolution, commitments are made to become someone new– which is a tall order. In order to avoid failure, it is important to understand that resolutions represent the ideal, but are also temporary. The ideal helps to focus change and propel us in a new direction. The ultimate goal of any resolution, however, should be the incorporation of this action into daily life. This is only possible after mastery has taken place. To master the resolution means to internalize the resolution and to fuses one’s life with this new way of being. If you resolve to make a change in your life for 2014, I encourage you to be gentle with yourself.
Resolve only until it becomes a part of your nature then drop the resolution.
More than a resolution, the intention must be to change the very nature of our being, making us congruent with who we strive to be. In so doing, it is also important to accept yourself for who you are. Remember that no one is ever perfect or finished. Accept the dynamism of change. Experience a growth that cannot be calculated. Situations do not remain the same and as the environment around us shifts, we must be open to transform the resolutions we once needed and made, because even the resolution can one day become obsolete or counter-productive. Resolve to not be disappointed, overly critical or difficult upon what you do and have done. If we fix upon a goal and don’t reach it, we lead ourselves to disappointment.
Dynamic resolutions assist in preventing this occurrence. Static resolutions do not.
Accept all the good and the bad. Accept that which you cherish and that which you despise. Move into a space of acceptance; release from self-judgment. Guilt is not healthy, instead embrace change and create alternatives. Move past the limiting idea of failure. Move into a constant state of embracing every moment, and then become open to all experiences. Remain open to all that arises and passes.
Look at yourself. Discover your fears. Understand your faults. Reach for the zenith and do not be afraid to fall. Fall down. Stand back up. Embrace falling, for it is necessary to learn walking.
Challenge even the resolutions you have made for yourself, hence reaching awareness of self. Avoid causing self pain by sticking to a resolution that may no longer be relevant.
As the conscious intention penetrates into your being, resolve to not blindly cling to resolutions without understanding their meaning. Instead, embrace your true nature through awareness of who you are. The change sought is dependent on self-realization. The change is dependent upon acceptance.
HawaH has authored four books and produced three documentary films. He is co-founder and executive director of the nonprofit organization One Common Unity.
For more information visit OneCommonUnity.org.